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Understand you & your partner’s needs

Discover your primary love language and how you can use it to better connect with your loved ones.

https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language

This is a great simple way of uncovering what type of things make you feel most loved. Is it quality time, is it gifts, or maybe one of the other 3 love languages? You can invite your partner to take the quiz too and share your results.

Erotic Blueprints and Breakthrough with Jaiya - Miss Jaiya

Jaiya is an award-winning Somatic Sexologist with over two decades of clinical research and client observation under her belt. She is the creator of The Erotic Blueprints and the best-selling author of the books 'Red Hot Touch' and 'Cuffed, Tied & Satisfied.'

https://missjaiya.com/

Have you ever thought about your erotic love language? No? Well here’s a super easy way to start the exploration and learn a bit about what your erotic bluerpint is.

I also recommended reading this blog post about the invention of the erotic blueprint: https://missjaiya.com/the-origins-of-the-erotic-blueprint-types/

What desires do you have in common?

MojoUpgrade has a heap of quesitons around what you want sexually or sensually from a partner and would want to give. It’s a fun activity to get to know your partner’s desires better.

MojoUpgrade

Answer questions on what you want Your partner answers questions on what they want We'll show you where you both match This website is intended for use solely by adults over 18 years of age. If you are under 18, please go here.

https://mojoupgrade.com/

One person answers the questions first then is given a link to share with the other person. They follow this link and answer the questions for themselves. At the end it will show you what you have in common.

Ready for more? This sexual activities list includes some very kinky suggestions and doesn’t allow you to hide the things you aren’t interested in. Nonetheless quite extensive and gives you more of a scale to vote on, such as ‘I'm not sure how I feel about this but would like to discuss it.’

Sexual Activity Consensus List

The Sex List http://sexpressionists.blogspot.com Purpose: This activity is designed to help assess which sexual activities you and your partner would be willing to do in order to improve communication and relationship fulfilment. Directions: Print out two copies of each list. Give one copy to ...

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1d757_RiQ2xg3UPiFPbVph8xQYsXET7KGnmpU3k3Ez-Y/edit#

Although designed for young adults, there are some great prompts in this inventory stocklist around things like boundaries, Words & Terms, Safety as well as sexual activities. ScarletTeen is a wonderful resource to have on hand if you have teenage children or know someone who does.

Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist

Clear, truthful and open communication is a must with partnered sex. It's the best way to assure everyone is fully and freely consenting as well as physically and emotionally safe; to help sex and sexual relationships be as satisfying, positive and awesome as they can be.